Socien's Blog

The journey to success is a continual process of mastering your limited means. Means are always limited by the way. Letting there be delays to your ultimate success is the best way through which to discover means to understanding your limited means and harnessing them.

To delay is not to deny. Every delay is worth it. When you see your victory coming but not having it soon enough and not having it at all,  you are being prepared. All you have to do is to wait for it. It is the delay that prepares your mental capacity, your emotional readiness for that you are waiting for.

It is a strategy that is hard to rely on but it can turn you into an even stronger person. And whenever when you seek help do not choose helpers basing on how endowed each one of them is. I encourage: If they are the only people who care about you and your vision, seek for help from the least advantaged people among those around you. I a hope that you will learn that:

• If you are to depend on some people… People whose intentions are to prove you wrong are not suitable helpers in your life no matter how reliable and endowed they can be. Go with helpers who can struggle to help you up on time if they are the only helpers who believe in you.
• You learn a lot if you let yourself be in the major part of your reality than when not. If a torn shoe is all you can afford do not borrow a new one. Your time to put on new shoes will come. Feel good where you can’t look good.
• Those who deny themselves a life pegged on reality sink themselves in debt. To deceive yourself with the reality that is not, you have to overspend your joy, finances, time and attention.
• When you welcome reality you are welcoming what it bears for you, delays to your success included. You, consequently, do not over spend your joy, finances and attention.

Time will play its magic, stay in the box. This what I found when I was just digging through my stick notes on a relaxing Sunday. In the box you are somehow trapped, if you are just an anybody you just have to burst your way out. But now you are being encouraged to wait for that moment time will pull you out of the box and give you the achievement you have been waiting for.

The delay also give rewrites to most of what you hoped for, and gets you to start to hope for bigger versions of all that you once hoped for. I just like it when I feel that I did not achieve anything back then so that I can achieve something this way bigger now.

When building your vision, it is  not only your ingenuity that gets you to ultimately have a vision at the end. It is not entirely bacause you are bright or special. It is also because of what you go through. You have to go through and you have to endure, and along the way your definition of what should be success to you changes. It can definately shift from moderate to intense. 

Personally, I am worried when success come earlier. Written in 2023, this article is one of the products of my seven years of trying to be a blogger, or have an income out of blogging . I wonder what it could have been to have an income out of blogging back in 2016 when I started. But back then my specific dream was to earn around a thousand dollars a month, get married to the then girl of my dreams and be a providing father. A thousand a month could have been a lot given the economy I grew up surrounded by. 

As success kept itself in constant delay this dream grew larger. By 2021, I was drafting on what the structure of the company would be; a blogging company with a good count of workers. Forget my story. My point is now will always make reference from then, but if now is unprecedented, that becomes the problem. Because when “now” is unprecedented, it becomes the start and the end of it all. A poor definition of success and a shallow vision becomes the end result.

What delays, or allowing more time to pass while you chase for it, give you  is a room to fail. It all become then you failed, and then you failed now and in the future you succeed. Shallow success cannot, in this case, become the end of it all. You may not break past shallow success but you can be there to help others to achieve what you missed better. You have the experience.

You should have you own scars, memories and lessons, and if you are to let them they can help you discover a wider path ahead. What you go through without a choice and you fighting back not to keep going through it; then you seriously realise that it’s part of your journey and tolerate it has powers to transform you and make you one who can succeed. But this demands that you let time pass for you to properly and throughly go through it, feel the pain and discover its gains.

Nothing comes free. If you are willing to lose more of your time than normally do others,pursuing and enduring, you can only buy for yourself achievements than normally possible. Time is a big bracket and nothing happen outside it. If something happen outside the scope of time it cannot qualify to be called reality.

Be real. Let it take time. Some have to let it take a quarter a century trying to move their mountains and the did move them at the end.

If you are to ask me, how to set realistic goals? I would tell you that any goal is realistic only if you let it have its fair share of time. Yes, goals are set with results in mind, and results must come at a specified time. (If you need a distinction, you need it in this current semester not in the next). But if you need to be real respect effort than results and improve more on effort than on results. Consider also reading the article on effort versus results.

You need to set your goals but instead of tagging them all with specific time of completion, let some have no deadline. That way you improve on the effort before you reach the ultimate result.

Things do not always happen in time. They, too, happen in their own time. If it takes their time to happen it should take your patience, too, for them to happen. Let it take time.