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Can there be such a thing as static progress? Progress that doesn’t qualify to be called progress. Where there is only an illusion of progress but nothing more than that. Great achievements require that you go easy on trying to achieve your goals early. You need to welcome delays, too. As delays happen open your eyes to achievements hidden deep in failure. Improvements and newer abilities are part of your achievements even when you fail to reach the ultimate goal. Be happy. Because if you do it angrily you will miss out on doing it passionately.

Your financial growth is stale. Your true happiness seems to never come. (Some might even count spiritual growth among progress in life). Is it true that you are not making any progress when you are failing to make it to your goals and objectives? Or you are succeeding in making yourself the candidate for success in the future and should you give up early these gains will be lost to nothing. Be patient enough to wait for improvement while you are eager enough to see your results coming.

When you have only an ultimate goal through which to judge whether you achieved or not you miss anything that was achieved and wasn’t the goal itself. When you are developing yourself, everything must count. Sometimes you have to welcome improvement more than results. That improvement is mostly success in failure. When you welcome improvement, you appreciate improvement. Improvement appreciated is improvement easy to put into use. Once put into use your goals and objectives are not only attained but enlarged and attained.

Learn and discover by questioning

I think learning includes lining up questions to find answers on and getting to answer the questions. (And I very much prefer to learn than to think, to think than to reason). We answer questions on every aspect of life through what we feel, do and think. This to me makes the actual progress possible through questioning the things happening in and out of our lives.

“I have failed!” When you tell yourself this you are just feeding into your system some random information but a conclusion that will not help you grow. The conclusion becomes a bottom line, transfixing you to what’s at stake. If failure is what just happened then you are a failure. If improvement is to be part of what’s success to you, forget to conclude and discover your improvements and their true power. You are never finished.

“Why have I failed?” This question becomes the start of a dialogue and a sucking section through which learning is pumped into your system of thinking and doing. It is important to line up questions that are specific to the first-person subject than to “them”. You, as the only person in this world who has the privilege of calling yourself “me”, are the biggest problem to solve before you find your solutions. You can read more.

“Is there any success in my failure?” A question starting with “is” seeks to find and discover what’s not easily discovered by most. It is an object tool of compensating your losses with gains that are not discovered in absence of such type of questioning. Sit down with yourself. Use a pen and paper to answer such a question. Have a journal to maintain. While you maintain your journal you do unintentionally ask yourself a lot of questions and write your answers before you forget them. Maintaining a journal and a diary is a habit of forgetting to forget important thoughts that will mean any difference in your life.

Refinition: Don’t just question.

Don’t just question. Refine your questioning. Here is a question: What they did? Here is a refined question: How they did what they did? Refining questions makes it impossible to live your entire life without making it to milestones that can astound you.

Answers by nature are closer to conclusions than they are to questions. What refined answers do is they leave room for more questioning instead of one for shallow answers and conclusions. It is to me more dangerous to approach a situation in our lives with conclusions than refined questions. (Dangerous that even wars have been fought; one ethnic group has concluded that the other groups are bad, lazy, filthy, etc. Among conclusions, we have categories that are valid at an individual level and others that are true at societal, national and global levels. Prejudice is an example that stretches from the individual level, and family level and goes straight to the national level).

Unrefined questions expose unnecessary weaknesses when they are targeted to an outside entity, an entity that isn’t among the ones that are asking. Answers they result in can also be the basis of blaming and proving wrong, as they can be one of defending things that were done wrong.

Refined questions result in methods, newer methods so to speak. They invite more “hows” like “How can we do it better?” They spark more progress than staticism. It is only that refining your questioning demands a lot more effort in answering questions. Unrefined questions “What to do?” take information to answer. Refined questions “How to do what I do?” take answers from a limitless selection. The selection includes experience, failure, information, knowledge, wisdom and so on. When you find some of your answers out of the unpleasant situations and unwelcoming results, growth is certain.

Progress and growth.

It is not the wrongs others and we have committed: It is surely the deeds we can put to the ground that our growth going forward relies on. We have to be fully conscious of what we seek and the questions we ask as we hunt answers that deliver what we seek. Hence, a need to refine our questions, have them be centred on breakthroughs rather than on blaming, and where others failed. A proper failure education class concentrates on eliminating blame.

Refined questions seek to correct the one who comes up with them, make him better and better prepared to face challenges and invent tools for progress. Here is what to do at the personal level as a matter of getting to refine questions:

• Stop blaming. Interrogate yourself and question. Find answers that can only improve you. By doing so, you are solving the part of the problem that is within your solving powers. You have the power to improve yourself in each second counting. You have none to change how someone thinks, feels and acts.
• Try writing a journal and recording your income and expenses all year around among others. By doing so your are giving your mind the room to reflect on and multiply the answers and the question.
• Don’t give up. Let it take time. Build yourself with qualities of a visionary.