Perception, understanding infection and inception: How to understand and to be understood?

Seeing with your eyes is only a fraction of seeing. Your mind does the greater seeing. It interprets. It is usually forced to interpret quickly. The processing of what’s seen is the second seeing that feeds on beliefs, knowledge, intentions and mood of the time. I would wish to call this to refer to this processing as perception.

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It is not the image in the mirror any more once you see it. It is an image in your mind filtered, given meanings that may be distant from the image’s design. Beliefs and your existing thoughts are some of the things that can filter this image. Shortly put, understanding does not emanate from what you see. It is a product of what you choose to see and how you choose to see it. The choice happens quickly because it relies on both bugs and positive beliefs, knowledge and more items in one’s system. Bugs exchange sides with positives to produce a good understanding, a compromise or a negative one. I wish to call the negative one an infection.

My family always thought that I wanted another College degree. It was ready to fund my College education, a form of help that was thrice higher each semester than the amount of capital I required just once and for all. The result of this infection was the beginning of my devising of means to raise capital from scratch without them and the prolonging of failure. This prepared me for greater success.

My family was the most educated in the village. Its most successful figures were the most educated. But for once, a degree certificate was not that I wanted to make progress in my life. Their perception of my problem produced an infection. But the same perception of problems similar to mine had worked for the better for others. The less unfortunate members of the extended family found a health education fund in place for their tertiary education.

Infections ruin you. It makes you a poor leader, lover, helper, etc., who unconsciously sabotages the people he claims to help, lead and love. It made me a poor lover when I was caught up with a poor infection. A church girl is all I was looking for when I searched the dating market and I got one. When I noticed her unwillingness to kiss me I forgot that the church is still split between kissing or not kissing before marriage. I quickly concluded that she was not loving me. I started to pull out of that relationship.

To positively help someone you need to know the right things to help with. To love or to lead someone you must have a deeper understanding that simply states a clear-cut methodology to you. This requires patience. In case the recipient of the help is unaware of the help or leadership he might need, you need to figure out through understanding fully the ideal forms of help and a leader you can deliver.

Positive perception is a game-changing understanding you can deliver. You earn from it, among other things, the skills to listen. It is more important in life to listen than to be heard.

How to understand and how to be understood?

I recommend you not just to witness things happening in your life. Witnessing them cannot give you a scope of their design. You need to experience things so that you cannot fully get to understand them. Spend more time with the people you need to help. Sit down with them and let them tell your their story. Investigate into their lives. Don’t assume.

If you are the one to be understood find a means to communicate your expectations. To communicate is not to do it the other way around. My family offered me degree certificates instead of the several hundred dollars for the capital I desired because I failed to communicate.

As you seek to be understood I leave you with a message:

Be ready to handle frustrations.
Be brief with words. Buy time. Stop explaining start doing. Be bold in action. Rare are people who believe in words.
As far as you think you know the river, know its source.
Sometimes people who can’t help and love you are the people who listen the most. To be listened to, that’s the greatest help and love someone can give you. It opens opportunities.

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