Socien's Blog

In the course of the Vietnam War, an American reporter ventured onto a battlefield equipped with a camera to capture a few photographs. However, he found himself compelled to engage in actual combat, resulting in a detailed narrative titled “We Were Soldiers Once… and Young,” (it was, however, published late). This account, which later inspired a Hollywood movie in 2002, proved to be a significant turning point, as it shed light on the true impact of the war in the United States, a perspective that was previously not fully comprehended except by the war widows. This unique portrayal, stemming from the experiences of both a journalist and a soldier, brought about a significant shift in understanding.

I viewed the film shortly after leaving a relationship unexpectedly. I wrote expressing my sorrow over how we often abandon romantic partners and friends for not meeting our desired standards, only to realise they have improved in those areas after we’ve already moved on.

I reconnected with my girlfriend. Instead of focusing on breaking her to change. I turned a blind eye and started to talk to her, look at her and lay my hands on her as if she had actually changed. I turned a blind eye on each message she answered late. I stopped accusing her for being a conservative church girl who thinks kissing before marriage is still a sin. Surprisingly, she actually changed. She started to answer messages earlier, and she came to my home where we dived into the depths of physical affection. She wasn’t what I used to think she was after all.

The point I am trying to make here is, truth is like water. To have it where you want it to be you have to contain it to take it there. You need to participate in shaping what is true to you.

We need a variety of truths in our lives, not only as a nation or a group of people but as individuals or sworn partners. Some truths can only be truly understood by actively participating in their creation. For instance, one might mistakenly believe that his/her partner lacks love and compatibility, when in reality s/he have not made an effort to reciprocate. This illustrates that certain aspects of life may not reveal their full depth unless approached with one’s utmost effort and sincerity.

When water is stirred, it prevents a clear view of what lies beneath, and even observing from a distance doesn’t provide clarity. Understanding the depth of someone’s love requires calming their heart with genuine attention, yet many seek reassurance about their partners’ feelings by keeping their distance. Just as a flower needs care to bloom, a relationship requires attention to thrive. You can’t get from it what’s more than you give. This applies to other things we need and wish for in life.

The there are things that are harder to do in life. Perhaps the reason they are hard is because you haven’t tried you best to tackle them. Individuals proficient in solving math problems have typically dedicated considerable time to this pursuit. For them, solving a math problem is not challenging because they have actively engaged in the process of mastering this skill, thereby shaping their own truth.

You are encouraged not to give up because, between a trials there is improvement. More improvement means a greater capacity for a breakthrough. Breakthrough and not absolute failure becomes the truth you live for. Constructing this positive reality requires choosing the more difficult path, responding positively, and giving your utmost effort to the situation. If you opt out of facing these challenges in your life, you will spend the remainder of your days filled with remorse and holding others accountable for the things that didn’t materialise.