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To transform blunders into positive decisions, take appropriate actions afterwards. I have learned early that I am not going to make good decisions every time I would want to. It is impossible to guess whether a good decision is good enough. But it is easier to follow up with positive action on any decision, blunders included, than to initially make a good one.

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You cannot reverse the birth of a child born out of an accident teenage pregnancy but you can stand up afterwards and be the father/mother that child needs. Most blunders have this irreversible tendency. What you do after you make one separates what are corrected mistakes from the worst mistakes in your life.

I regretted it as I did a mental autopsy on the decision I had made to quit the job. It turned out I had made a poor decision. The job wasn’t paying but what was worse was to be seated at home knowing that nothing was going to come my way to compensate the income I had just given up on. I felt guilty. I had betrayed myself.

The more I felt guilty. The more I felt lost—an individual whose future has been robbed by the self. I recalled all possible poor decisions in my cabinet of memories, further examining them. The horrific images of failure and stagnation are all I have—enough evidence to further punish me with further guilt and a feeling of being lost. I lost all the confidence in myself. If there was anyone to tell me what to do, then that person became the one I had been waiting for.

He never came. In the event of his coming—I had already given up trusting mere mortals like me to make good decisions for me. It had become a fact to me that no one can claim that he can make good decisions. There is no such talent by the name of good decision-making. Good friends are not known for helping you have in your collection, nothing but good decisions. They are simply with you when there comes a time to turn any decision good.

What solidifies a poor decision as one is not the decision itself. The thoughts you assemble as a measure of processing the decision and the impacts of such thoughts do. Once they are of a negative kind the decision itself becomes bad. Such thoughts are the power junction box. They either switch off the grid or give it power hence, respectively, creating negative actions or positive ones in the aftermath.

The beginning of following up a blunder with good actions so that it, perhaps in the future, emerges to be the wisest decision is positivity in your thoughts. A good decision itself is nothing without a light from the most positive of your thoughts. A diary entry in the City Life series is on positive thinking perhaps you can check it out.

Even if it is a blunder, protect your decision from undue counter-decisions. There is no enemy to ever fall in one’s path that is greater than ‘fragmented decision making’—that one digs this pit, stops, buries his effort in it, starts another now and stops with the second strike of the pick, and start another; then decide not to and decide to dig again sometime later. It is better to do nothing at all sometimes than to be a victim of fragmented decision-making. Because there you may be like a plane on a take-off runway, efficient in its tyres to perform the initial run but with no wings to bring it to flight.