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Continue reading →: Possibilities are hidden inside impossibilities.
There are possibilities hidden in a sea of impossibilities. You make it harder for yourself to find the possibilities if you agitate the sea of impossibilities with frustration, danger, lack of hope and impatience. There are things to do to make patience work, other than hoping that something will just…
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Continue reading →: The salary system is a debt system
The salary system is easily a sophisticated debt system. This is how it is such: This is how profitable you are to your employer in the salary debt system. You start to repay the interest which would then become profits to your employer before your employer pays you what you…
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Continue reading →: Fear of criticism affect decision making: Types of criticisers.
A decision is a product of consensus whether in self or a group. It is further any follow-up action to choice and priorities made. I do believe that anything that threatens the attainment of that consensus does negatively affect the process of decision-making. The fear of criticism is one such…
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Continue reading →: How to get rich from scratch
In an article 6 things to know before you can get rich, I stated that the education system in broken and that the salary should be avoided at all costs. Yet two months down the line, I looked for a job as a security guard. I can tell you from…
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Continue reading →: Crisis as a system
On one of the Kiribati islands, the narrator, a mischievous guy in his own right, kissed a girl. This when done out of the confines of marriage leads to expulsion. He and the two in his team had to leave in a tinnie (a boat), at a dangerous time. Storms…
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Continue reading →: How do you sex educate your partner? Do you watch porn?
Savoir faire. The social skill to do or say what is appropriate for the occasion. That’s a random word the dictionary gave me as I was trying to write this article. There are things better said skillfully. Giving sex education to your partner is one of such things and my…
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Continue reading →: A glimpse of my life in the city in 2024
Here I was. Barely alive, having been running hither thither in the enchanted concrete jungles of ours. The landlady was demanding her share of a monthly tribute without taking into consideration the barrenness of the grounds I hunted. A girlfriend is like a fuel tank. As long as she walks…
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Continue reading →: Decisions and decision making: How to be decisive?
A choice involves simply picking one alternative from several available options. On the other hand, a decision is a more complex process that not only involves making a choice but also committing to a course of action and giving it precedence. It encompasses the creative process of envisioning a concept…
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Continue reading →: How to chase after high quality success, protect your gains
The lions have a hunt to kill success rates ranging from 17-30%, depending on numbers in the hunt. Although they lose much of their prey to other predators, African Wild Dogs, in comparison, have 80-85%. Yet lions are know as the king of the jungle, revealing that there is quality…
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Continue reading →: Suffering is unavoidable; wealth, success and beauty can’t shield you from it
Most people become too focused on their achievements and overlook their weaknesses. They become arrogant and blind to the fact that suffering and failure can befall anyone regardless of their status or past success. This hubris often make them forget the harsh realities of life and that setbacks can just…
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Continue reading →: Life is unfair. Purpose changes this
One day, my cousin and I headed to the lake with inadequate fishing equipment, aiming to catch fish for our home meals. Meanwhile, some other fishermen at the lake were focused on selling their catch, while others were engaged in the sport of trophy hunting. This scenario reminded me of…
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Continue reading →: The psychology of begging: When and how it goes wrong?
In any endeavour, some measure of success is required to sustain motivation. If a person is not naturally compelled by an internal desire or forced by external circumstances, s/he will likely lose interest in pursuits that yields no immediate results. Results are attracted to actions and relevant ways of positioning…
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Continue reading →: Happiness in small things, a bird taught me.13 July 2021, Tue. I got up minutes after 07:00 and headed outside where I basked the sun’s heat. Standing alone, my ears caught a sound that was not unique to it’s hearing history. It was a small bird that flies higher than its size only to have its wings…
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Continue reading →: Passion misses practicality : Injecting money VS growing it.
In November 2023, my father passed away when I was just a few days shy of my 28th birthday, and I was dealing with financial hardship and felt lost. During the funeral, my wealthy uncle, whom I had been avoiding, took the opportunity during his speech to discuss topics unrelated…
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Continue reading →: I am giving her up after teaching her what I wish for in love
I (28) fell in love with a lady (26) last year when we both were a year younger. The following experience slowed down the relationship, making it my worst since I started dating. It was boring beyond explanation. Yet I persevered, imposing myself as a teacher while she accepted a…
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Continue reading →: Characterisation: How we fail to understand each other/ fail others
When the script writer writes, he gives the audience a human being or superhero with limitations that can create or end the story, helping it move forward, stagnate and descent from climax. The writer, wielding the pen, determines abilities and thoughts of a character. Strengths and weaknesses take turns to…
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Continue reading →: Winning a fight isn’t enjoying a relationship
In relationships, I realise that winning an argument or a fight doesn’t necessarily mean enjoying the conflict. This insight came to me while observing a fight between a female turkey and a hen on a farm. Although the hen initially had the upper hand, a human intervened and held the…
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Continue reading →: If you want truth participate in the making of it.
In the course of the Vietnam War, an American reporter ventured onto a battlefield equipped with a camera to capture a few photographs. However, he found himself compelled to engage in actual combat, resulting in a detailed narrative titled “We Were Soldiers Once… and Young,” (it was, however, published late).…
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Continue reading →: You get successful when you are worth it
Success serves as evidence that something extraordinary has been done. It represents the least expected result after a journey marked by constant failure. Put simply, success is a singular triumph at the conclusion of navigating through a sea of impossibilities and setbacks. So you have to understand that you have…
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Continue reading →: The apprehension of others extinguishing your light necessitates avoidance.I am the eldest in my family, the one who leads the way. Although I didn’t hear my father’s final words, he had previously tasked me with caring for my siblings and taking on his role for them before and after his passing. This responsibility made sense, considering I am…
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Continue reading →: How best to chat with a lover on an instant messaging platformInstant messaging has come a long way from its early days, shaping how we connect, fall in love, and maintain relationships. So, whether you’re using WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, or any other platform, honing effective chat skills can enhance your relationship experience. Chatting on an instant messaging platform is like a…
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Continue reading →: Why family ties in Africa has not led to business developmentThe original title of the article, “Why Tight Family Connections in Sub-Saharan Africa Are Not Leading to Business Capital and Development,” highlights an interesting paradox. While tightly-knit extended families are a cultural norm in many African communities, this social fabric doesn’t always translate into a readily available pool of capital…
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Continue reading →: Hope and patience: Getting to the top isn’t a must. It is getting to the top.If there’s been a single event that has profoundly educated me about hope and patience, it’s certainly the story in this post. These virtues are intertwined in Romans 5:4-5, [KJV]: “And patience, experience; and experience, hope: And hope maketh not ashamed…” Although they may seem similar, patience influences our thinking…
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Continue reading →: Laziness, hard work and smart workLaziness can be described as not doing what one must while acting as if he’s doing it. Laziness is one of the things plain passion gives us so that we fill our lives with actions that don’t fulfil our mission on the planet. Related: Some individuals achieve their life’s goals…
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Continue reading →: The Metro’w Bird • An Inspirational Story • Part 1It’s uncommon for a bird of prey to be born with disabilities. Yet, an extraordinary case occurred with Ozi. His limbs lacked strength, and his upper thighs were as slender as a pigeon’s, rendering the act of seizing and hoisting prey beyond his capabilities. Indeed, for a raptor, the ability…
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Continue reading →: Love has a downfall effect. How to build true love?
Clipping my in-ear monitor earphones, I played a Chillstep “Surrender” by Ferven. “We don’t say rising in love,” is a voice by Alan Watts (1953-73) on the playing Chillstep that brought the beginning of a change in my perception of love. “There is in it the idea of the fall.”…
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Continue reading →: Society wants wealth distributed. Why this won’t make us rich.We are so much absorbed in the possibilities of the rich distributing their wealth. At the national level, we want them taxed and voluntarily expand their philanthropic arm, and help what should be their competition to grow. At the family level want all our problems to disappear thanks to the…
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Continue reading →: Dreams: How to fulfil your dreams?A dream becomes a burden for those who hesitate to pursue it. It’s only through action that a dream takes shape; otherwise, it remains just a dream, even if one spends their entire life cherishing it. A dream isn’t merely potential, for potential is common—even those who have utterly failed…
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Continue reading →: Two experiences that helped me to grow: Losing a lover, eating from a garbage bin.On December 21, 2019, I encountered my long-term partner for what would be the last time. Unbeknownst to me, she had realized our relationship was nearing its end and had even started seeing someone else. I left, under the impression that I was the one ending things. She was approximately…
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Continue reading →: How do/did I use social media vs how I expect to use it?In December 2013, I ventured into the world of social media by setting up my first Facebook profile. Around the same time, I also explored other platforms like “Frim,” but as Facebook gained prominence, my attention shifted there. Having just celebrated my 18th birthday, I found myself forming connections with…
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Continue reading →: Some relationships are boring before marriage and amazing afterwardsSome relationships are boring before marriage and amazingly sparkling afterwards because of one thing: Love respects the truth. Boring people do not have to fake anything about themselves. So being their true version gets their premarital partners bored. But this bug may become a feature that makes their love life…
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Continue reading →: Tertiary education rarely gives us a business mindset, the world over.There is nothing tertiary education would try to do that primary education didn’t as far as building our mindset is concerned. What changes is the detail in the message? The higher you go the deeper the detail. This is a vague claim, isn’t it? Well, I am happy that I…
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Continue reading →: What is ghosting, how and why it happens?Ghosting is a type of discontinuing a relationship or friendship whereby an outgoing lover disappears and cuts communications without a word of explanation to the victim. The victim will have to learn over time that s/he was rejected the last time they met and that she will never meet the…
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Continue reading →: Outward Conservativism, inward incautiosness, relationships and suppressing feelings in love?
In one paragraph from my diary entry I wrote: At 28 I had not slept with a woman. But if you read through the entirety of this diary you may find that I was addicted to explicit content at some point in my life, and I offer solutions this problem.…
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Continue reading →: Diary benefits: How to create and maintain a diary?Writing a diary is one of the quickest ways of destressing yourself. When you write a diary, it is your lowest moments that drive you to write more. Words like ‘laugh’ and ‘happiness’ are likely to be rare. It is their negatives like ‘sad’ that will litter the diary. But…
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Continue reading →: The backdrop to my love life (Diary Entry on kissing or not before marriage & more)
Meinrad Socien brings his personal diary to his blog. This SubjectMe diary entries explains misharps and highs in his love life. Watch out for the next episode in the series. The entries contains solutions to problems that my apply to anyone’s relationship.
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Continue reading →: Transformation, bringing changes into your lifeTransformation is the most expensive change you can make at the personal level yet it is for us all, the poor and the rich. But what is transformation? Transformation is a process of rebirth in which barriers are eliminated and limitless qualities are installed. Transformation is a process of refining…
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Continue reading →: Why you should never give up? Reflecting on my blogging journeyWhen I started blogging in 2016, my biggest problem was resources. It still is. But one thing connecting now and the past is my undying unwillingness to give up. Three blogs failed and became history. The last current one started as hope27.com, and after failure to pay hosting fees on…
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